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May 9, 2009

Does it matter really?

Filed under: Uncategorized — inspiredhoney @ 5:35 am

The February Black Saturday bushfires here in Victoria have made us all aware of the preciousness of the here-and-now and of our mortality.

The loss of lives of all ages can make you wonder: how many of those people had made choices to put off things they valued in order to meet someone else’s expectations. How many of them made compromises based on the assumption that they’d be around to make up for any regrets?

It’s like the person who dies suddenly leaving behind a beautiful scented candle or an exquisite lacy nightie that has never been used. The family may have never seen it before. She had been keeping it for a special occasion – the one that never came.

In fact, how many of our mothers (or maybe us) keep the “good” silverware, crockery,or glassware in a cupboard? Too scared to enjoy the beauty of these valuable items in case something gets broken or damaged?

Does it matter really?

One of the guiding principles to use when trying to put strong feelings or strong compulsions into perspective is this simple question. Will this matter in twelve months time?May help you turn the squeaky wheel to mute so you can allow your values to get a say.

What About You?

How do you manage the difficult choices?

What is your most important value?

What has been the hardest choice you’ve had to make?

What do you do with the regret that sometimes accompanies our difficult choices?

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1 Comment »

  1. Love the suggestion of “will this matter in twelve months time?” That really does help with bringing some perspective to issues, worries and concerns.

    Comment by Nerida — May 20, 2009 @ 6:39 am


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